https://calmconnecttherapy.com/articles/ Articles on Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, trauma, anxiety and inner work by Aakriti Malik, Clinical Psychologist. en-nz https://calmconnecttherapy.com/what-happens-first-ifs-therapy-session/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/what-happens-first-ifs-therapy-session/ Thu, 22 Oct 2026 00:00:00 GMT Aakriti Malik Nervous about starting therapy? What a first IFS session with a clinical psychologist in Auckland actually looks like, step by step. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/people-pleasing-perfectionism-burnout-ifs/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/people-pleasing-perfectionism-burnout-ifs/ Wed, 21 Oct 2026 00:00:00 GMT Aakriti Malik Why people-pleasing, perfectionism and burnout aren’t flaws but protective parts, and how IFS therapy in Auckland and online across NZ helps them rest. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/meeting-your-inner-child-with-compassion-a-gentle-introduction-to-parts-work/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/meeting-your-inner-child-with-compassion-a-gentle-introduction-to-parts-work/ Sat, 10 May 2025 02:48:25 GMT Aakriti Malik Do small moments trigger big reactions? Learn to meet your inner child with compassion through IFS parts work, gently and at your own pace. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/why-you-still-feel-stuck-even-after-years-of-therapy-and-how-ifs-can-help/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/why-you-still-feel-stuck-even-after-years-of-therapy-and-how-ifs-can-help/ Fri, 09 May 2025 02:55:52 GMT Aakriti Malik Done the therapy, journaling and mindfulness but still feel heavy inside? How IFS works with the root of your patterns, not just the symptoms. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/ifs-and-the-tendency-to-harden-up-how-therapy-can-help-you-feel-without-fear/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/ifs-and-the-tendency-to-harden-up-how-therapy-can-help-you-feel-without-fear/ Tue, 06 May 2025 22:31:10 GMT Aakriti Malik Raised to push feelings down? Why ‘harden up’ catches up with so many New Zealanders, and how IFS therapy offers a safe, paced way to feel again. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/feeling-stuck-after-years-of-therapy-ifs-might-be-the-deep-dive-you-need/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/feeling-stuck-after-years-of-therapy-ifs-might-be-the-deep-dive-you-need/ Thu, 01 May 2025 01:04:53 GMT Aakriti Malik Plenty of insight but the same old patterns? Why high-functioning people get stuck in talk therapy, and how IFS reaches what insight alone can’t. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/ifs-and-intergenerational-healing-for-migrant-women-in-nz/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/ifs-and-intergenerational-healing-for-migrant-women-in-nz/ Sat, 26 Apr 2025 01:05:16 GMT Aakriti Malik Living between cultures and carrying your family’s hopes? How IFS helps migrant women in NZ honour the past and make room for their own needs. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/overcoming-people-pleasing-with-ifs-therapy/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/overcoming-people-pleasing-with-ifs-therapy/ Sun, 20 Apr 2025 01:05:08 GMT Aakriti Malik Saying yes when you mean no? Why people-pleasing starts as protection, and how IFS therapy helps you set boundaries and speak up without the guilt. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/how-ifs-helps-women-move-from-self-criticism-to-self-compassion/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/how-ifs-helps-women-move-from-self-criticism-to-self-compassion/ Tue, 15 Apr 2025 22:52:13 GMT Aakriti Malik Exhausted by your inner critic? See how IFS therapy helps women in Aotearoa soften harsh self-talk and find a calmer, kinder relationship with themselves. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/why-do-i-find-it-so-hard-to-connect-with-my-emotions/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/why-do-i-find-it-so-hard-to-connect-with-my-emotions/ Thu, 10 Apr 2025 01:05:26 GMT Aakriti Malik Feel numb, detached or shut down? Why connecting with your emotions can feel so hard, and how IFS therapy gently helps you reconnect with what you feel. https://calmconnecttherapy.com/what-is-internal-family-systems-ifs-therapy-and-could-it-be-right-for-you/ https://calmconnecttherapy.com/what-is-internal-family-systems-ifs-therapy-and-could-it-be-right-for-you/ Fri, 04 Apr 2025 01:04:42 GMT Aakriti Malik New to IFS therapy? Learn how Internal Family Systems works with the anxious, critical and protective parts of you, and whether it could suit you.